Truly Alive Magazine, Albuquerque, NM July / August 2018
There are many reasons why, after death, a soul does not transition to the other side. Based upon the tens of thousands of cases I have dealt with over the last 45 years; most people do not cross over to the other side because they do not realize that they have died. The moment of death is swift and little physically changes around them. I describe this occurrence in detail in my book “Possessed by Ghosts – Exorcisms in the 21st Century.” A simple example is that a person, who had been terminally ill, dies but their soul may believe they have somehow recovered and didn't die after all. Or, sometimes death happens unexpectedly, which can be a shock not only to family members but to that soul as well; therefore, the soul is unprepared to pass to the other side.
On the other hand, some souls are aware of their death but are unwilling to move on because of feelings of guilt, lack of forgiveness, anger, and/or attachment to material goods. The decision is not always a selfish one or conscious one. Think of the grandmother who dies but misses her beloved grandchildren and wants to kiss and hug them again. The “physical” contact makes it harder for her to transition to the other side naturally and she attaches herself to the grandchild.
HOW DOES THIS INFLUENCE THOSE OF US WHO ARE ALIVE?
Many souls don’t know how to recharge their energy, so they end up usurping or stealing it from the living. When a soul draws a small amount of energy, this can go unnoticed by the host. However, serious problems arise when the soul of someone who has died permanently attaches itself to a living person. Suddenly, a person (a child or adult) who was once healthy and happy may fall ill. At first, the person may experience severe headaches, stomach aches or fatigue. Symptoms usually subside over time, but they don’t completely go away, and new ones begin to appear.
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