What If Attacking Others Means Attacking Yourself?

Have you ever caught yourself ruminating—again and again—about someone who wronged you? Maybe it lasted for hours. Or days. Maybe even years. That slow-burning anger you carry can sometimes seem justified. But what if I told you that every time you think negatively about another person, you're not attacking them at all—but yourself? Surprised? You’re not alone. The truth is, when you attack someone else in your mind, you are turning that weapon inward.

“All Attack Is Self-Attack”

This concept comes straight from A Course in Miracles, a spiritual text I highly recommend—though I’ll be honest, it’s not a light read. It’s meant for those deeply immersed in spiritual study. In it, you'll find the striking phrase: “All attack is self-attack.”

The answer lies in the understanding that we are all fundamentally one. There is no real separation between you and another human being. When you criticize, condemn, or mentally lash out at someone, you’re strengthening the illusion that you are separate.

So, where does this impulse to attack come from? It stems from fear. And from guilt. Animals, for example, only attack when they feel threatened. A calm, safe creature doesn’t act aggressively. Humans? We’re not much different. The problem is, we often feel “threatened” even when there’s no real danger—just a false belief we’ve picked up somewhere along the way. And these beliefs? Many were formed in childhood—or even carried from past incarnations.

Here’s a simple example. Let’s say you believe your mother-in-law doesn’t like you. Every time she visits, you shrink a little inside. You feel judged. Not good enough. Unloved. So you begin to silently fume. You criticize her in your thoughts, maybe even gossip behind her back. But what’s really happening?

You're attacking—yes. But you're attacking because deep down, you believe you're unworthy. If you truly loved and accepted yourself, you wouldn’t crave her approval. You wouldn’t need her love to validate your worth. Her opinion wouldn’t shake you.

When You Feel the Urge to Attack, Do This Instead

The next time you feel the urge to lash out at someone—whether in your head or out loud—pause. Step away. Find a quiet place where you can be alone, even just for a moment. And then, ask yourself:

What pain in me is crying out for attention? What wound is being triggered right now? Know this: the source of your pain is not out there. It’s within you.

The person you're blaming? They may have sparked something—but the fire was already burning inside. The real cause is always internal.

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Every Attack Is a Call for Healing

Because the pain is inside, your attack is really a plea. A cry. A longing to be seen, held, understood, healed. And the more intense the attack, the deeper the call.

That moment of rage? It isn’t power. It’s a mask. Beneath it is vulnerability. Hurt. A disconnection from truth. We attack not to harm, but because we feel harmed. We’re screaming for love, even when our words sound like fury.

If you trace your urge to attack all the way back to its roots, you’ll usually find one belief: that you are separate from God. That belief—deeply buried and rarely examined—is guilt. It’s the moment when ego enters the picture and whispers, “You are separated from God.” But you’re not. Separation from God is an illusion, yet ego insists it’s real. And from that illusion springs guilt. And from that guilt—projection, judgment, attack.

In summary, every time we judge, criticize, or mentally attack another person, we are unknowingly turning that attack inward. Our negative thoughts are often rooted in deep-seated beliefs about our own unworthiness, fear, or guilt—usually tied to the illusion that we are separate from others and from the Divine. True healing begins when we stop blaming the outside world and start listening to the pain within. Only then can we respond with love instead of attack.

About the Author:

Marianna oversees the daily operations of The Dr. Wanda Pratnicka Center, skillfully advising staff members on guiding clients through the spirit removal process. Her efforts extend beyond management; she is dedicated to raising awareness about the phenomenon of spirit possession, utilizing various platforms including events, books, and digital media. In her leisure time, Marianna delights in gardening, immerses herself in reading, and explores new natural wonders.

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