Loneliness: How To Cope During The Holiday Season

Winter holiday season is finally here! It is a time full of joy and excitement for many of us. We decorate our homes, cook our favorite traditional meals and shop for gifts for our loved ones. Some people, especially children, anxiously await all year long for this magical time. However, for many people who have recently lost a loved one, the very sight of leaves falling from the trees in October starts to incite anxiety over the upcoming holiday season. The closer we get to December, the greater the pain and loneliness which often creates the impression that the holidays may be impossible to survive. To make matters worse, it seems that we are left alone with these feelings, because it is not appropriate to discuss a sad topic like grief and mourning during the holidays when everyone around us is carefree and happy.

How Does Mourning Impact the Holiday Season?

The mourning we write about here does not necessarily relate only to the loss of a loved one, but to any loss, such as divorce or the loss of a job. It even concerns the current crisis in the world as it relates to the loss of freedom. For example, most are no longer traveling for adventure or to visit loved ones. This means we are more isolated and possibly lonely than ever. Lack of mourning—the suppression of our feelings and pretending to be "tough"—may later negatively affect us for a long time to come. So how to "survive" those first holidays after the loss of a significant person or element in your life?

It’s important that you don't demand too much of yourself.  Do not force yourself to be like people that seem happy, carefree and in a festive mood. Let yourself cry, lament, and release pent up rage as much as you can. Pretending to be in a good mood will only increase your inner pain. Don't be afraid to ask others for help. For example, allow others to assist you in your holiday shopping, decorating and cooking of meals. If you were to lose an arm or a leg, you wouldn't expect yourself to be able to do everything that you would normally do, so you should approach dealing with emotional loss in the same manner.

Is It Beneficial to Modify Traditions After a Loss?

Another thing that helps is to try and ignore traditions that you are in no mood for this year. You can also create new traditions if the existing traditions are too overwhelming in that they remind you of the loss of a loved one. The holiday season should also be viewed as an amazing opportunity to forgive yourself and others. We often don't realize how angry we are at the person who passed away because he/she left us alone; or at a spouse who we divorced because he/she abused us and the children; or even at ourselves because we could have acted differently in a given situation. So give yourself the gift of forgiveness, because forgiveness is the only way to freedom and has an extremely soothing effect on our soul.

How Can Emotions for a Departed Loved One Affect Us?

However, we must be very careful that our emotions for a loved one who has died do not extend beyond healthy limits. For example, if we call out to him/her pleading for them to "Stay...! Do not go away…!” Or, you claim, “I cannot manage without you...!" Or, we feel sorry for him/her, we can't forgive him/her, or we feel guilty, then we do ourselves and this soul great harm. Any spirit feeling our negative emotions may not go to the other side and may instead decide to stay with us. In the initial moments when a spirit attaches itself to us, it may bring us relief, but unfortunately, only for a short time. If such a soul stays with us, it can manifest itself and cause a lack of energy or constant fatigue, migraines, abdominal pain, mood changes, anxiety, depression, negative emotions, aggression or self-destruction, suicidal thoughts, addictions, personality disorders and physical illnesses.

The Impact of Deceased Souls on the Living

For over fifty years, we have been analyzing such cases and helping people who find themselves in these types of situations. We have successfully helped tens of thousands of people with spirit and ghost removal and have written several books on this subject. This is why we know that this phenomenon is common and that it does not concern only isolated cases. Therefore, it is always worth checking whether the change in behavior, our own or a loved one’s (including children), does not come from the soul of a deceased person remaining with us.

Wishing you a holiday filled with peace and love and a New Year rich with blessings!

About the Author: 

Michael, a co-founder of The Dr. Wanda Pratnicka Center, holds a B.A. degree in psychology and is a spiritual teacher and healer, with a specialization in spirit removal. Under the mentorship of Wanda Pratnicka, Michael gained profound spiritual insights into the nuances of spirit attachment phenomenon, and for many years, he played a crucial role in assisting her with the remote spirit removal process. In his leisure time, Michael finds solace in meditation, immerses himself in the timeless beauty of classical music, and cherishes tranquil walks by the sea.

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