One of the most overlooked emotional wounds that people quietly carry is the ache of being left behind, the sting of rejection. This pain often surfaces in those who, as children, were emotionally—or physically—abandoned by their parents. It can feel incredibly isolating, as if you're the only person in the world who had to endure such a loss. You look around and assume everyone else grew up in a home filled with warmth, safety, and love. But that’s far from the truth.
Behind closed doors, in countless homes, stories unfold that few ever speak of. Many children, far more than we imagine, grow up with a persistent sense of being unwanted. Sometimes the reason is tangible—perhaps a parent passed away young, moved out, or deliberately cut contact. Other times, the parent remained under the same roof, yet their presence was a shadow—constantly working, lost in addiction, or emotionally unreachable. And so, rejection was felt, even if it was never spoken aloud.
To a child, a parent is not merely an adult. They are everything—a source of life, love, and truth. Children don’t see their parents as flawed humans raised by other flawed humans. They view them as near-divine, as infallible beings perched on a throne of authority. So, when pain comes from this figure—when love is absent or rejection creeps in—it cuts with terrifying depth.
The child’s mind, unable to grasp complexity, interprets the rejection as cosmic: If my parent doesn’t want me, then surely no one else will. If they left me, the world will too. And that belief, quietly formed in a fragile heart, becomes a silent blueprint for life. It seeds a future of heartbreak.
We don’t just grow up and leave childhood behind. We take it with us. Especially the parts that never fully healed. The wound of rejection doesn’t disappear with age—it follows, waits, and bleeds a little when life presses on it. It flares when we least expect it—not to punish us, but to call our attention.
This pain is an invitation, not an enemy. It signals that it's time to cleanse, to heal, to make peace with a story we've carried for far too long.
I know this pain intimately. When I was just a child, my parents left the country in search of a better life, and I didn’t see them for years. That separation planted a deep ache inside me. I felt abandoned, unwanted. And in my young mind, I believed I must have done something terribly wrong to deserve it. Along with the pain, guilt took root.
Years later, even as an adult, this pain would sneak back in. I remember one example vividly—my husband, whose job requires constant travel, would go away for work. Each time he left, I was overtaken by a wave of pain so strong it felt physical. I’d get upset, sometimes angry, and we’d argue. I blamed him for leaving.
But eventually, I understood—this wasn’t about him. It was me. A wounded part of me was screaming for attention. I had used arguments to mask my real pain: the lingering wound of childhood rejection.
If you experienced abandonment—emotional or physical—as a child, pause and ask yourself: Is this wound still with me? Sometimes it hides in plain sight. You might feel devastated when someone you love doesn’t return your call, when your partner seems distant, when your boss ignores your work, or when your mother-in-law speaks to you with coldness. These may seem like small things, but if they spark strong emotional reactions—anger, sadness, fear, jealousy—there’s likely something deeper underneath.
And here’s something crucial to understand: the universe mirrors what we believe about ourselves. If you believe you’re unlovable, rejected, or unworthy, life will reflect that back. Not because it’s cruel—but because it's listening. Like a genie, the universe grants what your subconscious keeps repeating.
When we ignore or suppress the pain of rejection, it doesn’t simply vanish—it festers. And when it festers, it can erupt as overwhelming emotions like intense anger, fear, or deep despair. In these vulnerable states, our energetic field weakens. We become more susceptible—not just to emotional distress, but to outside influences. This is when the risk of spirit possession can quietly emerge. Spirits that have not transitioned to the Light often resonate with unresolved pain and may gravitate toward individuals who unknowingly emit that same frequency. If our inner wounds are left unhealed, they can act like open doors—inviting energies that feed on fear, chaos, or grief. The more unaware we are of the true root of our emotional reactions, the easier it is to confuse what’s ours with what isn’t.
So, how do we heal a wound that’s been with us for decades? First, we must recognize it. Awareness is everything. The next time you feel that familiar sting, don’t run from it. Go somewhere quiet. Be alone. Close your eyes. Notice where the emotion lives in your body—is it a tightness in the stomach, a lump in the throat, slumped shoulders, tears in your eyes? Don’t analyze. Don’t label it as “bad” or try to fix it. Just feel it. Let it exist. You’ve been rejected enough in your life. Don’t reject your own feelings now. Instead, welcome them. Speak softly: Every feeling is welcome here. Let the emotion move through you. Offer it your presence, your compassion. No need to change it. Just let it be.
This pain may return. That’s okay. Emotional wounds from childhood are like carvings in stone—they take time to wear down. Each time you meet your pain with awareness, acceptance, and gentleness, it loses a bit of its grip. The next time it visits, it may come with less intensity. You are slowly rewriting the script. The practice I described here is just a beginning. If this resonates with you, I highly recommend to read Safi Nidiaye's book "The Keys to the Heart Method".
About the Author:
Marianna oversees the daily operations of The Dr. Wanda Pratnicka Center, skillfully advising staff members on guiding clients through the spirit removal process. Her efforts extend beyond management; she is dedicated to raising awareness about the phenomenon of spirit possession, utilizing various platforms including events, books, and digital media. In her leisure time, Marianna delights in gardening, immerses herself in reading, and explores new natural wonders.
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