Why Should We Embrace Emotional Pain to Overcome It?

Our lives often revolve around seeking pleasure and avoiding pain at any cost. We’ve been conditioned to believe that emotional pain is something bad—something unbearable that might tear us apart. However, what truly tears us apart is not the pain itself, but our clever avoidance of it. In today’s post, we will answer the question why should we embrace emotional pain to overcome it.

The Power of Affirmations vs. Facing the Pain

Some people focus heavily on repeating positive affirmations. Sometimes, they even repeat them quickly and mechanically, just to drown out their negative emotions. While positive affirmations can be helpful, they won't do much good if we don't tend to our negative emotions. The more we fight our pain, the more it will remind us of its presence. As the saying goes: "What you resist, persists."

People try to avoid pain in countless ways: they get angry, cry, reach for a bottle of alcohol, go shopping, turn on the TV, or hit the gym. Scientists conducted an experiment where participants were asked to sit in a closed room without any distractions. They were warned that if they wanted to leave the room early, they would first have to receive an electric shock. It turned out that after just a few minutes, many participants could no longer stand sitting alone in the room without distractions and chose to get shocked just to escape. This experiment shows how much we dislike being alone with ourselves in silence—because that’s when our emotional pain surfaces, and we desperately try to flee from it.

Emotional Pain Makes Us Human

We need to see that emotional pain is part of what makes us human. It makes us sensitive and deep. It allows us to truly experience joy because we know the taste of pain. Love, for example, feels sweeter when our hearts have been broken before. Instead of running from emotional pain, we should befriend it. Each time it appears in our lives, it carries an important message. It reveals old emotional wounds we've buried deep inside that are now ready to see the light of day. Emotional pain wants, above all, to be acknowledged and deeply felt.

surrounder to pain

Imagine you desperately want to be in a relationship. You’re invited to a friend’s birthday party, and you know you’ll be the only one without a partner. You fear that attending such an event will make you feel uncomfortable. You have a choice: stay home to avoid the discomfort (pain), or choose to go and observe what emotions arise within you. At the party, you may start to feel jealousy, inferiority, regret, or even anger. There’s nothing wrong with these emotions—they are just feelings. Watch them. Observe. Notice how the energy of these emotions moves through your body. It might manifest as tension in your head, chest, or stomach. Observe your emotions from a distance, as if you were watching someone else.

Reconnecting with Past Pain

Sometimes emotions may remind you of a familiar pain from childhood—like when your parents didn’t have time for you, and now you feel worthless, not because of them anymore, but due to the lack of a partner. It’s a different situation, yet the same pain. It doesn’t matter why you feel something; what matters is what you feel. Breathe and try to feel these emotions with all your heart. You don’t need to do anything else. Just be aware of them and feel them. Like a wave that comes and goes, they will also pass once they have arrived.

In life, until we face and process our negative emotions, they will keep resurfacing. You can repeat affirmations like “I am in a wonderful relationship” endlessly, but they won't yield the desired results if you don’t first confront the pain that’s desperately seeking your attention.

Remember to treat yourself with compassion and kindness. We are usually too harsh on ourselves and judge ourselves too much. When a wave of pain comes, take care of yourself. Approach yourself as you would a small, hurt child. Give yourself love, understanding, and kindness.

When Emotional Pain Isn't Your Own

We must also remember that emotional pain can have other sources, and the exercise described above may not help if we're dealing with spirit possession. In such cases, the pain isn’t our own but belongs to the attached spirit. If a spirit is connected to our energy, it will constantly bombard us with negative vibrations, causing us to feel drained and emotionally unstable. One way to describe spirit possession is as if you are in a constant internal battle. You can find more information on spirit possession HERE.

Embracing emotional pain rather than avoiding it helps us process and heal our deepest wounds. It allows us to connect with ourselves on a deeper level and live a more authentic life. Remember, emotional pain is a message, not an enemy—it wants to be felt and understood.

About the Author:

Marianna oversees the daily operations of The Dr. Wanda Pratnicka Center, skillfully advising staff members on guiding clients through the spirit removal process. Her efforts extend beyond management; she is dedicated to raising awareness about the phenomenon of spirit possession, utilizing various platforms including events, books, and digital media. In her leisure time, Marianna delights in gardening, immerses herself in reading, and explores new natural wonders.

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