How Does Compassion Differ from Self-Pity?

Understanding the distinction between compassion and self-pity is crucial for personal growth and healthy relationships. While both emotions may arise from witnessing suffering, they lead to vastly different outcomes. In today’s post, we will answer the question: How does compassion differ from self-pity?

Human Love and Possessiveness

Emotions, by their very nature, are neutral. It is our decision that gives them either a negative or positive significance. Take, for example, love for another person. This love can manifest as either a desire to give or to take. In the case of pure, divine love, we wish for the utmost best for that person, without considering our own interests. We provide them with safety, care, happiness, and, most importantly, the freedom to act according to their own choices. This love is a source of light and power in every relationship.

Human love, on the other hand, can be possessive. It becomes a type of relationship where one person tries to control the other, feeling jealousy and a need for dominance. Such love often stems from low self-esteem, fear of losing the beloved, and a need for security and certainty.

A possessive person might monitor their partner, restrict their interactions with others, and constantly require affirmation of feelings and loyalty. Over time, this leads to tension and conflicts, significantly lowering the quality of life for both partners. In extreme cases, possessive love can turn into emotional or physical abuse, becoming a source of darkness that invariably leads to suffering.

Compassion Versus Pity

After anger, which we've extensively discussed in all our materials, compassion / self-pity is the most commonly experienced human emotion. It’s crucial to remember that, like all pairs of emotions, compassion / self-pity exists across a spectrum of light and dark versions. This obliges us to continuously explore the deepest motivations behind our choices.

Compassion arises from trust, and in some people, certainty about the divine origins of humanity. The more we understand that our deepest essence is a divine spark, the more compassion we will exhibit. The divine within us is omnipotent, omniscient, and all-loving. A person who clearly recognizes this configuration can see another person engulfed in suffering but will know that this suffering results from succumbing to human flaws and negative beliefs, which only affect the lowest vibrating bodies of a person – the physical, emotional, and lower mental bodies.

The Temporary Nature of Suffering

Such a person knows that these bodies are given to us only for a short period during our incarnation and, fortunately, will not exist forever. They are aware that the ultimate instance, the root cause of everything, is the so-called causal body and even higher bodies, which form the material for our incarnation along with the entire set of our personal traits. Seeing suffering, whether their own or others’, they perceive it only as a temporary manifestation and know that sooner or later, a person will find the path to clearly recognizing their Higher Self. They will see clearly that suffering exists only to the extent that we allow ourselves to believe that we are not the Higher Self but a separate being, isolated from the Universe, built only from a physical body endowed with a limited, human, and ignorant mind.

Acting from this lower version of our mind will manifest as self-pity. It will be a belief not in the omnipotence of the Higher Self but in the power of the human mind – the small ego. Such a person will feel that harm is done to people and themselves where, in reality, there is only the experience of suffering stemming from erroneous beliefs and the acquisition of motivation to free oneself from this closed cell of separation.

Helping at All Costs

These individuals often adopt a stance of helping "at all costs." They do not accept the perfection in the manifestations of suffering in themselves and others, desiring to provide help "by force." On deep levels, this desire arises from true love, but it is covered by layers of false beliefs stemming from a sense of being a victim and disbelief in the creative power of the Higher Self. Such a compulsive attitude dangerously attracts spirits of the deceased with identical beliefs, consequently imposing even more intense suffering on the possessed individual.

The Path to Enlightenment

The solution, as mentioned earlier and in countless posts on this blog, is the urgent observation of our thoughts and emotions. Only this practice can lead us to distance ourselves from our negative, dark side, which has the potential to quickly guide us to enlightenment from our erroneous thinking and permanently enter the Light of the loving God.

About the Author:

Michael, a co-founder of The Dr. Wanda Pratnicka Center, holds a B.A. degree in psychology and is a spiritual teacher and healer, with a specialization in spirit removal. Under the mentorship of his wife Wanda Pratnicka, Michael gained profound spiritual insights into the nuances of spirit attachment phenomenon, and for many years, he played a crucial role in assisting her with the remote spirit removal process. In his leisure time, Michael finds solace in meditation, immerses himself in the timeless beauty of classical music, and cherishes tranquil walks by the sea.

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