It may seem difficult to believe that anyone would willingly attract spirits into their life. Yet it happens every single day. Not because people are naive. Not because they are careless. It happens because of something far deeper, something profoundly human: the longing for connection.
The desire to be in a close, intimate relationship is not a weakness. It is woven into the very fabric of who we are. At the deepest levels of existence, every human being is connected to every other human being. We are connected to every animal, every plant, and even every stone.
There is divine presence and ongoing evolution within all creation. Through vast stretches of time, what begins in the mineral kingdom evolves toward the plant kingdom, then the animal kingdom, then the human kingdom, and eventually toward luminous beings possessing abilities and wisdom beyond our imagination. This ladder of evolution has no final rung. And you, as a human being, are part of it. The longing for unity is therefore completely natural. It runs deeper than habits. Deeper than conscious decisions. It is an inseparable part of our essence.
The challenge begins when our need for closeness cannot be fulfilled in the physical world. Sometimes people choose to stay among those who do not understand them. They remain in relationships or social circles that irritate, limit, or exhaust them simply because no better alternative seems available. They spend time with individuals who do not share their values, aspirations, or emotional depth because even unsatisfying company feels preferable to loneliness.
Many people live this way. For months. For years. Sometimes for an entire lifetime. Something inside whispers, "At least it's better than being alone." Yet this compromise with emptiness comes at a cost. Gradually, it weakens a person's energy. The aura becomes more vulnerable. The inner space that should be protected most carefully begins to open in ways that are not always healthy.
As people evolve spiritually, becoming more sensitive, intuitive, and receptive to subtle realities, some unknowingly begin searching for companionship elsewhere—in the world of spirits. Souls who once lived on Earth but never moved fully into the afterlife are often vibrationally closer to us than higher spiritual beings. We sense them more easily. Sometimes almost instinctively. And when a person is desperately longing for warmth, understanding, and companionship, these souls can be drawn into their life.
This is where a subtle trap appears. We do not attract random spirits. We attract spirits who resemble us. They may share our emotional patterns, our way of thinking, our fears, our wounds, and even our deepest struggles. They understand our pain because they carried similar pain themselves—and in many cases, still do.
At first, this can feel comforting. It may even feel as though we have found a kindred spirit. However, there is an important truth that must be understood. Souls who remain close to the physical world instead of continuing their evolution toward the Light made a profound mistake. Their natural path was to move beyond the veil of death toward higher states of consciousness, greater wisdom, and increasingly refined levels of existence.
Instead, they remained near the earthly plane. As a result, they continue to exist within an environment saturated by the collective suffering of humanity—billions of fears, sorrows, resentments, and unresolved emotional wounds, combined with their own. When you attract such a spirit, you are not only attracting aspects of its personality. You are also attracting its suffering. And in doing so, you often strengthen the suffering that already exists within yourself—whether you are aware of it or not.
There is another layer to this trap, one that many of our clients describe in remarkably similar ways. They speak about spiritual disturbances and unwanted spiritual presence. Yet at the same time, they insist that the spiritsare helping them. They say the spirits understand them. They say the spirits keep them company. Some even admit that without these spirits, they would feel completely alone.
This is often the moment when the attachment becomes most dangerous: when a person begins mistaking dependence for support and presence for genuine care. When we explain that spirits can manipulate perception, that they may present themselves as helpful companions, and that this apparent support is often an illusion designed to maintain access to human energy, something remarkable frequently happens.
The spirit knows what a person is searching for. It knows which words they long to hear. It knows which emotional needs remain unmet. It knows where the loneliness lives. And it offers precisely what the person is missing—or rather, it offers the appearance of it. This is not accidental. It is a mechanism. The greater the hunger for connection, the more convincing the mask becomes. When clients finally recognize this dynamic, we often hear immediate relief in their voice. There is rarely resistance. Rarely denial. Instead, there is silence. And then a simple response:
"Yes. I know that's true."
These moments are always profound. Deep down, people often recognize the truth long before anyone speaks it aloud. They simply fear facing it.
So what do we truly need? Certainly not a ban on longing. Certainly not a rejection of love, intimacy, or connection. What we need is discernment. Calm, mature, spiritual discernment. We must learn who and what we allow into our lives—both in the physical world and in the unseen one. Passion, obsession, overwhelming emotional cravings, and destructive habits such as addiction are unreliable guides. Whenever a force becomes so strong that it clouds clear judgment, vulnerability follows. This principle applies to human relationships. It applies even more strongly to relationships with spirits who have not moved on.
Pay attention to the company you keep. Notice how you feel after spending time with someone. Do you have more energy or less? Do you feel lighter or heavier? More peaceful or more agitated? Your energetic body knows the answer long before your mind does. Trust it more often. The desire for connection is sacred. It leads us toward unity, toward God, and toward the deepest truth of our existence. But that same longing, when driven by fear, desperation, or emotional emptiness, can lead us somewhere entirely different. Somewhere painful.
The choice is always yours because you are the one who chooses the world you inhabit. Continue asking your deepest self what is truly best for you. Sooner or later, the answer always comes.
About the Author:
Marianna oversees the daily operations of The Dr. Wanda Pratnicka Center, skillfully advising staff members on guiding clients through the spirit removal process. Her efforts extend beyond management; she is dedicated to raising awareness about the phenomenon of spirit possession, utilizing various platforms including events, books, and digital media. In her leisure time, Marianna delights in gardening, immerses herself in reading, and explores new natural wonders.
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There are moments—perhaps more often than we notice—when we try to control other people.
We ask them not to say certain things.
We feel unsettled when they behave in ways we didn’t expect.
We grow tense when a conversation begins to move in a direction that feels… uncomfortable.
And sometimes, without fully understanding why, we react.
We interrupt. We withdraw. We become irritated. Or we try to gently (or not so gently) steer things back to where we feel safe.
If you recognize yourself in this, please know—there is nothing wrong with you.
There is something deeply human unfolding here.
When we look closely, with honesty and kindness, we begin to see that control is rarely about the other person.
It is about us.
More specifically, it is about the quiet, often unseen parts of us that feel vulnerable.
A certain tone of voice…
A particular topic…
A passing comment…
These small moments can touch something deeper inside—something tender, something unfinished.
And before we even realize it, a subtle impulse arises:
“Make this stop.”
“Change the situation.”
“Don’t let this go further.”
Not because we want power over others…
but because we are trying to protect something within ourselves.
In many ways, what we call the “ego” is simply this protective mechanism—an attempt to guard old wounds from being felt again.
The intensity of our reactions can be confusing.
Why does something so small feel so big?
From a compassionate, contemplative perspective, it is not the present moment alone that we are reacting to.
It is the past—still alive within us.
Unresolved emotions do not disappear.
They wait.
And life, in its quiet intelligence, has a way of bringing them back—not to harm us, but to reveal them.
This can happen through:
It may feel as though life is working against us.
But what if something else is happening?
What if these moments are not interruptions…
but invitations?
Not punishments…
but openings?
From a Buddhist perspective, life is not trying to keep us comfortable.
It is gently, persistently, guiding us toward awareness.
Toward freedom.
When a situation stirs something within you, it is not creating the wound.
It is revealing it.
And this changes everything.
Because if it is being revealed, it means it can also be seen.
And if it can be seen… it can begin to heal.
Our instinct, however, is to close.
To tighten.
To defend.
To control the environment so we don’t have to feel what is arising.
We might say:
Or we might shut down internally, pulling away from the moment.
This closing feels protective.
But in truth, it keeps the wound untouched—and therefore unchanged.
There is another way. A quieter, more challenging way.
Instead of controlling what is happening around you, you gently turn toward what is happening within you.
You pause.
You notice:
Not to analyze.
Not to fix.
Just to allow.
This does not mean you tolerate harmful behavior or abandon healthy boundaries.
It means that, internally, you do not run away from yourself.
You remain present.
Even if what you feel is uncomfortable.
Even if it brings tears.
Even if it feels unfamiliar.
Because in that moment, something important is happening:
You are no longer protecting the wound.
You are meeting it.
When you stop trying to control others, something softens.
You begin to see that people are not the source of your pain—
they are mirrors, reflecting what is already there.
This realization is not always easy.
But it is deeply freeing.
Because it gently returns your attention to the only place where real change is possible:
Within.
Over time, as you allow these emotions to surface without resistance, they begin to lose their intensity.
Not because you forced them away…
but because you finally gave them space to be felt.
And what is fully felt, can move.
What is allowed, can transform.
You do not need to do this perfectly.
There will still be moments when you react, when you try to control, when you close.
That is part of being human.
But each time you notice it—without judgment—you are already stepping into awareness.
And awareness, in itself, is healing.
In the end, this path is not about becoming someone new.
It is about returning to a simpler way of being.
Less controlling.
Less guarded.
More open.
Not because life becomes easier…
but because you are no longer fighting what arises within you.
And in that openness, something quiet begins to emerge:
A sense of ease.
A deeper understanding.
A kind of peace that does not depend on others behaving a certain way.
You may not be able to control what others say or do.
But you can learn to stay present with what unfolds inside you.
And in that presence…
healing begins.
October 29, 2022
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